I grew up durring the time that you had to have a boyfriend etc... if you were a girl.
I always knew I was different, but was in the closet til I was 30.
To me sex was sex til I had my first girlfriend and I haven't gone back since.
I found there was nothing a male could do that a woman couldn't do to me
with more love and care.

Tried a man once, no interest since then.....

Never tried a fella. Every now and then i get vaguely curious about what sex with a guy would be like, but i'm not really that motavated to find out.

I recently had my first experience with a bio guy and I liked it. Granted, the man was more feminine than most women I've been with and had longer hair, too. Also, he was very attuned to energy and connectedness and is a good friend, so it was enjoyable to me.

I got to see the benefit of bio cock, so to speak. It has it's strengths and it's weaknesses. I can see why it offers something a woman generally cannot and I can also see how a woman can provide things for me that he could not. I reexamined my beliefs around how I ID and really discovered that I just tend to be attracted to folks with "genderqueer" energy and in general that shows up in women and transfolks and I suppose once in a blue moon with bio men.

about two and a half years ago I was a full blown "dyke"- with the faux hawk and the butchie girlfriend thinking I had sworn off penis forever. I had had plenty of sex with dudes before but never really "got it". (I lost my virg to a gay guy ha!) I was adimant about this not being a "phase" in my life, the last thing I expected was to fall in love with my male best friend. (but inside I find his gender to be in ways like a woman and mine to be like a man so go figure...) When we finally got together we were happy to enjoy each other but the sex was...not completly fulfilling. He understood my desire to still be with a women and let me experiment with girls on the side. We finally started having threesomes, and it turned into a bloody mess. I left for Thailand with a broken heart. I found the Thai men to be very androgynous-feminine looking and soft but they can build you a house and spear a wild pig for you in the jungle....when I came back something had unlocked within me, maybe it was the six months of meditating or a near death experience forced me to be in my own skin...I started hooking up with the old boy lover again and this time, this time it was as hot as the lesbian sheet soaking sex I can remember so well. So I think it has more to do with whats going on in your head/body and how comfortable you are with yourself/partner. I have dated the whole rainbow as far as gender/sexuality/ethnicity. Really I am just seachin for a heart of Gold. Its a ying-yang thang baby.

Sex with men is kind of like masturbating for me. Nothing wrong with masturbating but it's just not quite all the way there. But I think if you like penetration you can scrape by on it. Having sex with women is like making a square a cube. It's complete. When you're ready you should try it out and see what it's like. Good luck!

Chantelle
thegirltogoto.com